When you're expecting a baby, some people are overly keen on telling you how your life is going to change. It may have been my pregnancy hormones in overdrive, but I always felt there was a slight negative tone to some of them. Masked by a slightly passive aggressive laugh, they would basically tell me to enjoy my life now, because it's going to be pretty hard when the baby arrives.
It's definitely true that your life changes. But I'm far from looking back at my old life and wishing I had that again (except a full nights sleep, but that'll come back eventually). In fact, being a mum has made me realise a lot of negative things about my 'old life' ...
1. I used to waste so much time - When you have very little time to yourself, every minute counts. I can get showered, dressed and do my hair and make up in twenty minutes now whereas before, I could have taken up to an hour. That included several breaks to check my twitter, whats app my friends, send snapchats. Looking back, I wonder how many hours in every day that I wasted staring at my phone like a zombie. Oddly enough, now that I have less time to myself, I get so much more done.
2. Walking is the best therapy - Since me and Oliver have been going on long walks together, I've realised how much I love being out in the fresh air and how it can totally perk up my mood. There's nothing that refreshes me more than wrapping up in a hat and scarf and going out for a long walk with my little bear in the pram. Oh and the cup of tea to warm up when we get home .. bliss.
3. A little mess ever hurt anyone. I used to stress out in a messy house and it was always a priority to get the place clean and tidy before doing anything else. But now, during the day when I'm home alone with Oliver, it's inevitable that the place ends up a bomb site by mid day. I could find something to distract Oliver to let me tidy up, but then I'm missing out on fun times with him and to be honest, it'll end up messy again within a few hours. Life's too short to worry about mess all day. Now, I give the house a quick tidy when Andy gets home and just enjoy my time with Oliver during the day.
4. The little problems don't matter. It's a cliche but when you have a baby, your whole perspective changes. When you realise how lucky you are to have a baby, you stress a lot less about the unimportant things such as Tilly scratching our carpet to pieces (true story) or the length of time it's taken us to finish decorating! As long as Oliver is healthy and happy, everything else can wait.
5. I said all the things I now hate. I know this kind of contradicts the above but as a new mum there are a lot of things other people do, that you cant help but find irritating. The annoying same questions I heard throughout my pregnancy? I used to ask them. The vague/cliche/inexperienced advice people offer about babies? Pretty sure I did that too. Almost all of them are innocent on the other persons behalf but now I've heard it from the other side, I won't be one of those people again.
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